The War Against the Home: Rebuilding on the Rock

I was led to write and share this; not out of judgment, but out of love. Love for our families. Love for truth. Love for the order YHWH designed that’s been under attack since the beginning. This message might sting, but it’s only because healing has to begin with honesty.

We’re not just dealing with dysfunction; we’re dealing with destruction. And it didn’t start in our generation. It started the moment the adversary questioned YHWH’s order in the garden, and we’ve been suffering ever since.

The home used to be a place of covering, love, discipline, and truth. Now? It’s a battleground. Fathers absent. Mothers hardened. Children confused. And the enemy is laughing while we blame each other.

Here's the hard truth: He removes the man; or weakens him spiritually. She becomes the head, even if she didn’t ask for it. Now the kids are leading themselves or worse, being raised by social media, celebrities, or classrooms that teach confusion as identity.

How did we get here? Men stopped leading. Stopped praying. Stopped protecting. Stopped standing in their rightful place. Some were never taught how. Others were told their strength was toxic. And many have been emotionally castrated; by culture, by trauma, and yes, by women who refused to honor the role YHWH gave them. Maybe we weren’t taught because those before us didn’t fully know themselves or the Word. But now, we have the light of His truth shining clearly before us. This means we can no longer use lack of teaching as an excuse. The path is laid out; the guidance is here. It’s time to take what has been passed down, learn from it, and rise to do better for ourselves, for our children, and for the generations yet to come.

Men, your absence is felt. Not just physically, but spiritually. Your silence is loud. Your passivity is a wound. But you were made to war, not withdraw. You were made to cover, not collapse. It’s time to rise, reclaim your place, and lead not in pride, but in purpose.

But women; we also have our part to own. We exchanged our softness for strength. Our nurturing for control. We started calling submission slavery and became “independent” to the point of spiritual rebellion. Now we’re angry, bitter, worn down, and still unfulfilled.

We want the covering, but we won’t let him lead.

We want protection, but we won’t listen.

We want love, but we forgot that respect is also a command.

Don’t be Eve to your Adam. Don’t be the voice that questions YHWH’s Word and leads your house into disorder. Be the help, not the hindrance. The support, not the substitute. And ask yourself: How can the weaker vessel be the head? 1 Peter 3:7 We were made from his side, not to sit in his seat, so why are we trying to take his place? And the rib which YHWH had taken from the man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. Genesis 2:22

Let’s ask ourselves: Why are we raising daughters to chase money but not prepare to be wives?

Why are we raising sons to chase women but not prepare to be husbands?

Why is marriage mocked while fornication is normalized?

Why do women celebrate “being single” but secretly cry themselves to sleep?

Why do men sleep around to feel strong; yet feel more empty afterward?

You can’t lead if you’ve abandoned your role. You can’t cover her if you’re uncovering yourself. And woman; you can’t be his peace if you don’t even know yours.

There's a divine order. YHWH, man, woman, then child. But we’ve reversed it. Now women are leading, men are passive, and the children are wild.

Messiah said, “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” Mark 3:25 This truth is evident in our homes today.

This is why Who Made Me? is so important as the foundation for children. If they don’t know who created them, they won’t know who they are. And if we don’t model the design, they’ll continue to follow the world’s confusion.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 told us to teach His Word diligently to our children… when we rise, walk, lie down. But we can’t teach what we don’t live.

Malachi 4:6 warns us that unless the hearts of the fathers turn to the children and the children to the fathers, destruction will come. Look around. It’s already here.

This isn’t just about relationships. This is spiritual war. And until we restore the order, homes will keep crumbling; one compromise at a time.

So, are you willing to unlearn the lies of the world and rebuild according to the Word?

Are you willing to surrender your role, not to culture, but to YHWH?

Because if we don’t return to the original design, we’ll keep passing down the same wounds we were called to heal.

It’s time to rebuild the house. And this time, do it His way.

You can purchase Who Made Me? at herchosenpath.com and start guiding your children on the path of purpose and truth today.

“Everyone then who hears these words of Mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”

Matthew 7:24

With love and conviction,

Dana M.